Go within to work things out
Do you often wish you knew exactly how to get calm and clear about an issue or a problem, quickly and easily? You don’t want a new book or a new e-course; you just want some simple, clear guidance now.
As humans, we tend to look outside of ourselves for answers. We seek validation and vindication and exaltation from family, friends, and things. We often want to know what to do, how to feel, who to be, where to go, when to act—from others. We look for approval, we ask for advice, we read opinions, we worry and we waste precious time thinking that something outside of ourselves will give us what we need.
There's actually a better way and it’s this:
All our answers are within.
Bronnie Ware, the author of the famous book, The top 5 regrets of the dying: a life transformed by the dearly departing says: “In stillness lies the perfect reflection of your soul – a place of peace and wisdom waiting patiently and lovingly for your reconnection.”
And all it takes is stillness and willingness—two beautiful states of being.
Here’s how to do it:
Find a comfortable spot. Take a few deep breaths. Hold your hands in your lap and still your mind (which gets easier with practice).
Then ask one simple question (it all hinges on the question):
“What do I need to know right now?”
There is almost always an answer (if there’s not, keep gently trying). It might be a whispered instruction, a few words of advice; perhaps an image or a symbol.
I’ve found the wisdom I get from within is always spot-on. Absolutely the right thing I need to know in that moment. And so I take it seriously.
When you're finished in the silence, try writing down the words you heard.
You could try using this stillness technique whenever you're feeling drained and exhausted or uncertain—or craving something more.
It’s exquisite in its simplicity.
It’s a way to carve out even a tiny bit of time for you.
And if you act on the words you hear, it may be transformative.
(Author Gabby Bernstein says don’t worry if you don’t hear anything at first. Be patient with yourself and keep trying, gently.)
Meditation practices can absolutely take you to this place of inner peace and wisdom. And there are plenty of ways to meditate. If meditating feels hard, maybe just try to focus less on ‘meditating’ and more on ‘stillness and listening’ for this exercise. You’ll find your own style and rhythm.
For a really powerful look at this topic, here’s Gabby Bernstein in Sydney in 2014:
Louise Hay says: “Remember, meditation is merely a way of you getting in touch with your own inner guidance. While we are always connected with this guidance as we go about our day, it is easier for us to consciously connect when we sit quietly and listen. Let’s affirm: I am divinely guided at all times.”