Another way to feel worthy

The phenomenal Dr Brené Brown, a research professor and thought leader on vulnerability, courage, worthiness and shame, has a book called The gifts of imperfection: let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are, which is a must-read if you’re struggling with the notion of self-love and feeling worthy. (She’s got other brilliant ones too.) 

In The gifts of imperfection, Brene walks us through 10 guideposts to living a wholehearted life (where ‘wholehearted life’ is defined as living and loving with your whole heart). Guideposts such as:

  • letting go of what people think
  • letting go of perfectionism
  • letting go of the need for certainty
  • letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
  • letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle
  • letting go of self-doubt and ‘supposed to’.

Dr Brown shows us how to “cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough’, and to go to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging’.”

And, oh my goodness, this: “… we cannot give our children what we don’t have. Where we are on our journey of living and loving with our whole hearts is a much stronger indicator of parenting success than anything we can learn from how-to books.”

This book is like a balm. Perhaps you will find comfort and courage in its pages too? Have you read it?

Natalie Bartley